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ou’ve spotted a profile online you’re smitten with. I’m afraid that if it turns out to not be true, I might wind up in the middle of the Lincoln Center Barnes & Noble curled up in a ball weeping and muttering something about attractive women and the lies they tell, covered in all of Nabokov’s work. I hope it is—the little man who runs my brain has taken over and made me send you a note.It makes me look forward to ‘a little email back and forth.’”-Whit, 25, Portland, METhe verdict: While two online daters appreciated her brevity and casual way with words, our other panelists were left craving a warmer tone and less emphasis on why she’s not right for the profilee.Real-life result: No reply.(Note: The woman’s profile asked suitors to respond to a few questions, reprinted below)Q: What are your thoughts on Jersey? 'Q: Should one roll their eyes and scoff at Modest Mouse for being on MTV? This test is so easy and I didn’t even study or nothing.
Also, the astonishment he expresses over her beauty/brains combo could be seen as offensive. She emailed him back, and the two are happily dating. I see that you recently saw the show Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat. I look forward to hearing from you.-Brad The feedback:“The open-ended question doesn’t bother me as much as what the question is about: the play.I’d be more inclined to respond if his email was more upbeat.”-Alicia, 30, Philadelphia“All guys should avoid any reference to ‘the little man.’ Otherwise, Eric gets points for humor, but if he’d weep if everything in my profile wasn’t entirely true, I’d be afraid what he’d do if I turned him down for a second date.”-Christine, 35, Los Angeles, CA“I like the intelligence it shows, but it feels like he takes the joke too far.I’m all for curled-up-in-fetal-position jokes, but he should quickly move on to commenting on something else in her profile.”-Kendra, 30, New York, New York The verdict: Eric gets kudos for originality and sense of humor.So please tell me it’s true before he makes me do something drastic, and I’ve already been warned that if there are any more incidents like the Swan Lake monkey-banana night of last week I’ll be banned from the store.-Eric The feedback:“This email is creative, maybe too cute. ’ and make it a statement instead: ‘I really find it cool that you enjoy reading Nabokov...’ And instead of ‘The little man that runs my brain....,’ I would simply say, ‘How could I not respond?’”-Roman Griffen, author of Internet Dating: Tips, Tricks, and Tactics“Eric will win a response because he (1) focuses on his reader: a woman who reads Nabokov; (2) shows interest in the same; (3) demonstrates a sense of humor about himself; and (4) initiates a discussion that has possibilities.”-Sandra Lamb, author of Personal Notes: How to Write from the Heart for Any Occasion“Of course an attractive woman can like both Al Green and Nabokov; why wouldn’t that be the case?